Our baby boy turned two on May 5th.
It was a big day for him. Lots of frosting and presents.
It was a big day for the whole family, really.
We celebrated the joyfulness he fills us with every single day …
And how incredibly in love with life he is, he’s made us and he continues to be as his own little two year old self.
It was a very low key celebration with just Grandpa’s and Grandma’s, a few aunts and uncles. It’s not really our “thing” to make a huge deal out of birthdays outside of our own family of four. We like to celebrate each other in a big way, without fanfare or 17 primary colored toys.
Because celebrating life isn’t about getting, it’s about giving.
And he gives us so much.
Being the baby of our family is fun, I think. My daughter and I like to cater to him but we also like to treat him like a big boy – because that’s what he prefers. She said to me yesterday, driving around in the car, that she can’t wait to be a Mommy! Hearing something like that from your own child is a pretty big compliment – because their frame of reference of mothering is you. It’s me.
I get pretty paranoid about screwing them up. Am I telling them I love them enough? Am I smothering? Am I strict enough where it counts? Do I establish boundaries well enough? It’s always about being enough and doing enough and accomplishing it all when really they see me being me. Just me.
Short comings, pitfalls in my own character, crabby and sad. They see it all. Of all the people in my life – my kids know me, my heart, the best. We’re with one another every single day, all day. But she chooses to see the happy, well adjusted person I try to be. She chooses to see me for me.
And she said she wants that, too.
Happy birthday to our little guy, to our special girl and to our family of four. We just might be doing this right – and we’re loving every single minute.